And then there were 3
Without me really noticing - my Mum had a man in her life. Now when we went out on our day trips together there were three of us, and instead of going by public transport we went in his car. I suppose at some stage we must have been introduced, but if I’m honest I don’t remember, or perhaps my mind doesn’t care to. Either way, Mum married him, and we became a family unit. A few months later he adopted me and legally became my Dad with no opposition from my birth father. I’m told I had to go to court to speak to a judge to confirm that I wanted this to happen, but I don’t recollect that happening, but I’m sure I would have remembered such an event even if I were only a child. It must have been a relief to my Mum though; no longer a single parent she now had a decent hardworking husband who wouldn’t gamble and drink away the rent money – so I was told - or have affairs and cheat on her with other women, and who would be a father to her son.
This seems somber. I'd hate to think you had no say in it whatsoever, especially considering adoption. It's bad enough you had no say in your natural parentage.
ReplyDeleteIf I remember correctly you eventually developed a good relationship with your stepdad so I guess your mom marrying him wasn't a bad thing. :) People often forget things, especially things that happened when we were young even though they were important for our lives. I, for instance, don't remember my parents getting divorced and I also don't remember how my stepdad “walked“ into my life and I was about six years old then.
ReplyDeleteI'm commencing to think the entire world is some kind of dysfunctional.
ReplyDeleteIt's quite a big deal when the shape of a family changes. You sound like you were very accepting of it.
ReplyDeleteThe same happened to me and I do remember going to court to say I was happy with the situ, however although I said I was - because I wanted to make my mum happy - I was not. Never really came to terms with it.
ReplyDeleteLike hearing your story.
Sounds like a tough situation for a child, to feel like you have to make any such decisions. Glad it worked out in some sense.
ReplyDeleteVery tough situation to be put in as a child. I am sorry you had to go through that.
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